In my parents' bedroom, there was a full mirror on the back of their door to the bathroom, beside a window overlooking the back hill to Gale's elms. I have fond memories of standing by my dad’s bed—staring to see if I looked ready for school.
During my early spiritual training, I learned of the "mirror principle." It says that everyone you look at is a mirror of you. If you feel excited or upset by what you see, the issue at hand, is yours. If your feelings remain neutral, however, then the content belongs to the other person
Working in Miami with Stephen, my second husband, as he was giving workshops on Sound Healing—where his energy was very high—when on the highway returning to where we were staying, if he were cut off in traffic, he often lost visible and verbal control. Upset with him—not the traffic, I considered there were Cubans passing us who'd risked their lives crossing in a boat to Miami and speeding and cutting in and out of traffic meant little to them. It took me six months for an insight as to why I became upset, until I realized that I cut people off in conversation. At that, my issue with Stephen dissolved, and I watched from a new, calm viewpoint.
My realization is, "Measuring whether we respond or react to another is a tool for self-awareness—with an opportunity for changing through self-improvement."
*Feng Shui (pronounced "Foong Shway") is the Chinese art of placement. Feng means Wind and Shui Water.